A Matter of Balance: The Power of Social Connection and Solitude

by Marnie Sanborn Myhre 

March 1, 2025 

Spend just a few minutes at the La Pointe post office on Madeline Island and you’ll see firsthand that humans are wired for connection. Laughter, friendly waves, and casual conversations fill the air—it’s a hub of community life. But while social interaction is essential for our well-being, solitude is just as important. Taking time for ourselves helps us recharge, reflect, and grow. The key to a fulfilling life? Finding the right balance between the two. 

The Importance of Social Connection 

Being around others boosts our mood, sharpens our minds, and even contributes to a longer life. Studies show that strong social ties help reduce stress, foster resilience, and improve overall health. From childhood through old age, meaningful relationships provide support, learning opportunities, and a sense of belonging. 

There are many opportunities to connect. On Madeline Island, the library isn’t just for books—it’s a gathering place where you can create in the Maker’s Space, knit-and-sit, attend meetings, or simply chat with neighbors and visitors. Reflections and connections happen at the church during Sunday service along with Thursday dinner game night and other meetings. Woods Hall offers weaving, pottery, jewelry making, art opportunities and classes. Croquet games fill the town’s main lawn in the afternoons, and Darling’s isn’t just about picking up fresh food or the Marina for hardware or boat service or Mission Hill for coffee—they are places to catch up with friends or say hi to those you haven’t seen in a while. Whether it’s game nights, workouts at Healing Motion’s yurt, meeting at the dog park, a golf or racket game, or boating with friends, the island is rich with ways to stay socially engaged. 

The Power of Solitude 

While socializing is vital, too much of it can be draining. Solitude offers us a chance to reset, think clearly, and tap into creativity. It’s not about loneliness—it’s about intentional quiet time. Journaling, meditating, or simply enjoying a peaceful walk can reduce stress and improve mental clarity. In a world buzzing with digital distractions, carving out time away from screens and noise helps us reconnect with ourselves. 

Striking the Right Balance 

So, how do we find harmony between social engagement and solitude? Here are a few strategies for you to consider: 

● Know Yourself: Some people thrive in social settings, while others need more alone time to recharge. If an exercise class energizes you, go for it! If a solo walk in the woods sounds more appealing, prioritize that. 

● Set Boundaries: Not every invitation requires a “yes.” Choose interactions that bring joy and limit those that feel obligatory or overwhelming. 

● Quality Over Quantity: Deep, meaningful conversations are far more fulfilling than constant, surface-level interactions. Whether it’s game night with close friends or a one-on-one chat at the Beach Club, be present and engaged. 

● Make Time for Solitude: Solitude isn’t about isolation—it’s about balance. Whether it’s reading, painting, or simply sitting in silence, make space for activities that nourish your inner world. 

● Be Mindful in Both Spaces: When socializing, give your full attention. When alone, practice mindfulness to enhance relaxation and self-awareness. Group activities like Tai Chi, yoga, and sound meditation combine the benefits of both—fostering connection while cultivating inner peace. 

A Life Well-Balanced 

When my husband Ken and I moved from the Twin Cities to Madeline Island eight years ago now, our urban friends and family assumed we’d feel isolated. Instead, we’ve discovered a vibrant community and embraced the solitude of the woods. The island has given us the best of both worlds—deep connections with others and the space to enjoy quiet moments. I believe this can be found most places if you are open to exploring possibilities and opportunities. 

Both social interaction and solitude are essential for a happy, healthy life. By understanding and honoring our unique needs, we can create a lifestyle that nurtures both connection and self-reflection—leading to a more balanced and fulfilling existence.